Annoyances

Ok, I was just on match and wanted to share a couple things that get on my nerves when I'm looking at someone's profile.

1. A guy that is in his 30's but says he is looking for a woman in her 20's. Really? Is there something wrong with a woman your own age?? Or any guy that lists his age range as younger than he is, especially if it's much younger than you are. ie. a guy that's 33 listing the age range he's looking for as 18-25.

2. Someone that lists their body type as 'about average', 'a few extra pounds' or even 'stocky' but says they are looking for someone with the body type of only 'athletic and toned' or 'slender'.
Good luck with that.


Just a couple thoughts, will be back soon

Mr. Keeping his Options Open

Okay, now this I just don't get. And let's count how many things should have told me that I should have told him I wasn't interested.

This guy, Mr. KhOO, emails me saying that he sawmy profile and thought he would say hello. He says that his profile is hidden because he has had some ex girlfriend issues. (As a side note, there are 2 things that I have found that I think is weird on this online dating thing. One is people that don't post pictures, we need to at least see what you look like. And two is people with hidden profiles. Why do you feel the need to hide your profile? Very suspect.

In addition, this guy is a bit older than me, about 12 years older and says no to wanting to have kids. The one picture I can see of his, he looks pretty cute and looks much younger than his age. Which he addressed in his email, saying that he takes good care of himself and whatnot.

I email him back saying that I hate to even bring it up but at some point I do want to have kids and he says he doesn't. He responds saying that if I definitely want kids we may not work out in the long run, but it might if I think I can have fun with someone that doesn't want to have kids. Well, of course I can have fun with someone that doesn't want kids, that's not the issue! The issue is forming an attraction and bond with someone that can't/isn't willing to give me the things that I need.

I think about it for a couple days and I decide that it doesn't hurt to get together and see how it goes. I email him and also ask him to send me his pictures since I can only see his main pic since his profile is hidden. Which he does and tells me to let him know if I'm still attracted and then we can go from there.

He doesn't wait for me to respond and emails me a couple hours later and says I should probably tell you that I am in the middle of a girlfriend fading in and out situation, which may turn me off and he would completely undestand. What was that again? girlfriend? can you explain this in and out situation, I'm not familiar....

So why exactly is a guy, who technically has a girlfriend, on an online dating site emailing other women?! Trying to keep his options open. Or looking for a hook up.

I email him back and say yeah I don't think we can get together if you are actually seeing someone....I'm sure I won't get a response. And that's quite alright.

I just don't get it, there is someone in your life, why are you looking for other people. I mean, if you don't want that person in your life, fine, but end it with them! Don't go looking for someone else!!

ugh

What is with guys, seriously?

Ok, second thing tonight. I'm not sure what these guys are trying to pull or what games they are trying to play.
First, this guy emails me the other day. I had looked at his profile and didn't make a move, he seemed alright but there were a couple things that I wasn't crazy about. The next day he emails me saying that he saw that I looked at his profile and I seem like someone he would definitely want to get to know better and to let him know if I want to chat sometime. Now we've talked about the chatting thing before, I'm not really into it. Chatting online or even talking on the phone will not tell you what talking to someone face to face will. I just want to meet up and see if we hit it off. So the next day I email him and tell him that I would be interested in getting together sometime. No response. What's the deal, didn't you initiate this??
Something similar has happened a couple other times. Twice a guy 'winked' at me, I emailed him saying I was interested and then I don't hear anything from them. Who knows, maybe I'm not emailing the right things! Silly me thinking responding showing my interest wasn't the right thing to do!

Also and this is really a big one. Actually he needs his own post :)

Mr. Guilt

I have a couple things to blog about tonight but first will be about a past date. Mr. Guilt had contacted me and I wasn't too into him he seemed nice and I like to give people a chance. After all, you never know..well sometimes you do.

We decided to meet for coffee with the possibility of something after that depending on how the coffee went.

So we get along pretty well and had plenty to talk about. However, Mr. Guilt did most of the talking. I would ask a question and he would talk for 10 minutes about it, without a return question, and then I would ask another question, and so on.

When we were done with the coffee, he asked if I wanted to have dinner. Things were going ok so I said yes. We walked to a casual place and it was a little busy so we had to wait. Mr. Guilty was suddenly acting a little nervous. He asks me if I want to go somewhere else...I say this place is fine, we're already here. He then says that being around a lot of people makes him uneasy. Now I'm not Ms. Social or anything, but I do like going out and often there are other people there....

So anyway, that night went fine and he asked me to go out again. I said yes because I was on the fence. He was nice, but the lack of questions about my life and me not being initially attracted to him made me not too sure.

Second date went fine, pretty much the same as the first. He did most of the talking. Also we went to what he said was his favorite restaurant and how good the food was and I did not really care for the food...pretty bland.

So during the date we talked about possible doing something that coming Sunday. When the date was over, he says to call him if I want to go out again. I had pretty much decided that I didn't want to hang out again so I was glad that he was kind of giving me an out. However. When Sunday night came around he texts me saying that he's sorry he didn't call me but he was in the hospital. He had told me that he had lots of allergies so I assumed that was the problem and since he said to call him if I wanted to go out again, I thought it was best to not respond. Maybe kind of crappy, but didn't want to lead him on.

The next day he texts me again asking if I got the first text. I respond and say yes and ask him if he's ok. He responds by telling me why he's at the hospital....telling me all kinds of things that I don't need to know...TMI. I don't know you so I really don't need to hear about the hernia in your groin.....

So I tell him that I hope he's feeling better and stop responding. Still not wanting to lead him on or give him the wrong idea. A couple days later he emails me and tries to give me this guilt trip saying just so you know, I'm home from the hospital now blah blah blah.

What was I supposed to do, go visit you at the hospital??