Not A Match.com
My dating misadventures for your entertainment
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Annoyances
1. A guy that is in his 30's but says he is looking for a woman in her 20's. Really? Is there something wrong with a woman your own age?? Or any guy that lists his age range as younger than he is, especially if it's much younger than you are. ie. a guy that's 33 listing the age range he's looking for as 18-25.
2. Someone that lists their body type as 'about average', 'a few extra pounds' or even 'stocky' but says they are looking for someone with the body type of only 'athletic and toned' or 'slender'.
Good luck with that.
Just a couple thoughts, will be back soon
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Mr. Keeping his Options Open
What is with guys, seriously?
First, this guy emails me the other day. I had looked at his profile and didn't make a move, he seemed alright but there were a couple things that I wasn't crazy about. The next day he emails me saying that he saw that I looked at his profile and I seem like someone he would definitely want to get to know better and to let him know if I want to chat sometime. Now we've talked about the chatting thing before, I'm not really into it. Chatting online or even talking on the phone will not tell you what talking to someone face to face will. I just want to meet up and see if we hit it off. So the next day I email him and tell him that I would be interested in getting together sometime. No response. What's the deal, didn't you initiate this??
Something similar has happened a couple other times. Twice a guy 'winked' at me, I emailed him saying I was interested and then I don't hear anything from them. Who knows, maybe I'm not emailing the right things! Silly me thinking responding showing my interest wasn't the right thing to do!
Also and this is really a big one. Actually he needs his own post :)
Mr. Guilt
Monday, July 26, 2010
Mr. I want you to come to my house and ride in my car even though you hardly know me
Ok, I was supposed to have a date on Saturday.....never happened. He, we'll call him SA, contacted me first and we emailed each other for a couple days before I asked if he wanted to get together. Talking to long before meeting can get on my nerves, I just want to meet already and find out if we are compatable. I can find out so much more, and read you so much better if we meet rather than talking on the phone or emailing.
So I asked him if he wanted to get together and of course he said yes. He asked me what I wanted to do and I suggested dinner, pool or just getting together for a beer. He lives a little south of me so I thought maybe we could meet somewhere inbetween. He said that he wasn't really into pool and suggested a very public place south of both of us, where there is lots to do. It's kind of a far drive for me, about an hour, but I hadn't been there in awhile and thought it could be fun so I said yes. We decided on a time and I asked him where at the place I should meet him. And he says........I live on your way so come to my house and we'll take my truck the rest of the way.
Now, rule #1 when meeting new people, especially people online, is don't go to their houses, meet in a public place blah blah blah....
So I tell him that I would be more comfortable meeting him at the place we decided to go for a first meeting. He responds saying that he understands and was just being considerate of my drive. This is the day before we are to meet, Friday. Saturday morning I email him and thank him for the thought and that I would meet him at 5pm.
Now, earlier he had told me that he would be working until 2:30 pm. So on Saturday, I'm getting ready and I need to leave by 4 to get there on time, and that's kinda pushing it.
When I am about to walk out the door, he emails me and says that he's really sorry and hopes I haven't left yet but is stuck at work for a couple hours. I'm a little disappointed since I don't have any other plans since I was supposed to meet him. I email him back and tell him that maybe we can meet somewhere else later or another time.
Haven't heard from him. It's Monday night.
So I must have made him mad. Sorry. If you can't comprehend that a single, pretty small woman shouldn't go to a man's house that she's never met before, and honestly barely talked to at all and then ride alone in a car? If you can't understand that then not only do I not want to date you, I don't even want to know you. Really?! You think that's ok to get mad at me about that? Whatever....
And then when I was thinking about writing this I thought of something else that made me pretty mad.
He had to work until 2:30. But he didn't email me until 3:55. So why did he wait? If he knew he wasn't going to be able to meet me, why did he wait so long to email me? Makes me think that he did it on purpose. He knew that it would take me an hour to get there from my house so he knew around what time I would be leaving my house. My theory is that he emailed me at the last minute on purpose, thinking that I had already left my house. Sort of as 'punishment' for not wanting to meet him at his house. Probably didn't get stuck at work at all. Little does he know, my nifty Droid phones tells me when I have emails and I got his email before I was on the road.
But of course, I could be all wrong. Maybe he really did get stuck at work, maybe he was embarassed for suggesting meeting at his house and getting stuck at work. We shall never know.....
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Mr. Conservative
So until I have another date, I'm going to revisit my previous dates. My first date from match.com was with a guy we'll call MB. He instant messaged me and tells me how pretty and attractive I am and asks if we can meet for dinner. So we meet Cheesecake Factory for dinner.
He was kinda cute but his profile said he's conservative and I'm, umm, not. But, sometimes differences are good and sometimes healthy debate is fun so I figured I would meet him anyway.
Dinner was ok, we talked alright. I felt like I asked the majority of the questions and carried the majority of the conversation. Which is not really normal for me, I'm generally more quiet.
Turns out we didn't really have much in common. We parted after dinner and neither one of us contacted the other again.
Friday, July 23, 2010
What am I doing here??
It's always interesting meeting new people. Will we get along? Will we have much in common? I've met some nice people that just weren't what I was looking for, or I wasn't what they were looking for and I've met some people that made for some fun conversations with my friends afterwards!
I will write about the dates that I have already been on, but they may be more general and the future dates that I go on will get a nice fresh blog right after :)